Ethan Demme

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October 25, 2019

Running for A Second Term as East Lampeter Township Supervisor

Since 2014 I’ve had the privilege and honor of serving as one of five East Lampeter township supervisors. We have accomplished a lot over the last several years but there is still more to do which is why I’m seeking re-election for another six-year term.

Here are a few things I’m proud to have helped accomplish,

  • Cut regulations and returned rights to homeowners so they can create accessory apartments
  • Supported our Emergency Responders by passing a property maintenance code to deal with problem properties
  • Advocated for a fiscally responsible  balanced budget, increased reserve funds, and dealt with unfunded mandates from the State and County

Here are a few things that I still want to work on over the next few years.

  • Increase participation and transparency in local government
  • Zoning reforms to protect and return property rights
  • Preserve our precious farmland for future generations
  • Support our volunteer fire companies and Emergency Responders
  • Fiscally responsible budgets with longer-term planning

Feel free to contact me and let me know what items you think we should focus on in 2020 and beyond. Don’t forget to vote on November 5th, for your local races as well as your county and state races.

Filed Under: Lancaster County, Lifelong Learning

January 2, 2019

The Power of Moments – Book Review

The existentialist philosopher Kierkegaard once wrote that we live forward but understand backward. In their book The Power of Moments, authors Chip Heath (Stanford) and Dan Heath (Duke) help us explore those defining moments in our lives that shape our core identity. The authors identify four main characteristics of defining moments (though some of the most memorable combine two or more of these elements):

Elevation: “defining moments rise above the everyday. They provoke not just transient happiness, like laughing at a friend’s joke, but memorable delight.”

Insight: “defining moments rewire our understanding of ourselves or the world.”

Pride: “defining moments capture us at our best – moments of achievement, moments of courage.”

Connection: “defining moments are social…these moments are strengthened because we share them with others.”

The authors divide these defining moments into three main categories:

Transitions: promotions, the first day of school, the end of projects, etc.

Milestones: retirement, unheralded achievements, etc.

Pits: dealing with negative feedback, loss of loved ones, etc.

In business as in personal life, the authors argue that we benefit from building the habit of “moment-spotting.” This can often be a harder task in business because we get “consumed with goals” and when that happens “time is meaningful only insofar as it clarifies or measures our goals. The goal is the thing.” But the authors seek to push back against this goal-oriented framework: they remind us that “for an individual human being, moments are the thing.” And they point out that even celebrating an achievement is “embedded in a moment.”

As an example of concrete defining moments in the workplace, the authors ask us to think about the first day at a new job. “For new employees, it’s three big transitions at once: intellectual (new work), social (new people), and environmental (new place.)” If we can recognize that this first day provides an opportunity for a defining moment filled with elevation, insight, pride, and connection, then we will realize that “the first day shouldn’t be a set of bureaucratic activities on a checklist. It should be a peak moment.”

In addition to tips on how to recognize defining moments, the book gives helpful advice for how to craft those moments. This advice is often deeply practical and simple, such as boosting sensory pleasures (color, taste, music), but the advice also relies on psychology in suggesting ideas like using games or competition to simulate the feeling that the stakes are raised, or using novelty to challenge expectations and break social scripts.

The authors conclude their book with a series of imaginative what-if questions:

  • What if every organization in the world offered new employees an unforgettable first-day experience?
  • What if every student had an academic experience as memorable as prom?
  • What if every patient was asked, ‘what matters to you?’
  • What if you called that old friend right now and finally made that road trip happen?
  • What if we didn’t just remember the defining moments of our lives but made them?

This book reminded me of Pixar’s animated movie Inside Out. In this imaginative movie, we see inside the brain command center of a girl named Riley, and we watch as her personified emotions help her to navigate daily life. Inside the ecosystem that is Riley’s brain, we see islands that represent Core Memories – defining moments from Riley’s life.

In my review of the movie, I suggested to parents that you talk to your own children about their core memories: ask your kids about the memories that define them. Ask questions like, “what is your favorite family memory?”, and “Do you remember what made you feel the saddest?” – Let your children take the lead because the memories that are core to them may not be what you’d expect . . . but don’t be afraid to use prompts as need, i.e., “remember when we first got Rover?” As we enter into this New Year, reflecting as a family on defining moments, both individual and familial, can help contextualize those resolutions and goals we have set for 2019, while helping us avoid being consumed by those goals and instead remain watchful for those extraordinary moments that enrich life.

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Lifelong Learning Tagged With: book review, chip heath, dan heath, power of moments

July 7, 2018

Affirmation and Attachment, Part 2

In my last post,  I introduced the philosopher Josef Pieper and talked about his insight on affirmation. I shared his thoughts on how humbly recognizing that everything that exists is good and has been gifted to us (including our own existence!) is the foundation for loving others. In Pieper’s words, this affirmation proclaims that “everything that is, is good, and it is good to exist.” I applied Pieper’s insights to parenting and explored how affirming our kids can deepen our attachments and strengthen our families.

Today, I want to talk briefly about parents affirming other parents. When spouses affirm each other and other couples and when moms and dads affirm other moms and dad, relationships of trust and encouragement are built. These relationships are the building block for strong communities that provide a safety net.

Too often, however, we compare ourselves to other parents in a way that leaves us feeling insecure about ourselves. This leads us to try and compete with can leave us bitter, angry, or despairing (vices that are the polar opposite of Pieper’s joyful festivity.) The other trap we can fall into as parents is pride. Pieper noted that humility is essential for affirmation and that “the act of freely giving oneself cannot take place unless it […] grows from the root of a comprehensive affirmation.” Our pride can blind us to the goodness of others and keep us from affirming and thus loving them. Not only does this poison our relationships, it also keeps us from being able to properly celebrate the joys of our own family.

Last year I highlighted a report from PEW Research which found that parents (and especially mothers) often use social media to affirm each other.

  • 74% of parents who use social media get support from their friends there.2 Digging into the data, 35% of social-media-using parents “strongly agree” that they get support from friends on social media. Fully 45% of mothers who use social media “strongly agree” that they get support from friends on social media, compared with just 22% of fathers.

I noted that parents that #trustparents (themselves and fellow parents) and who support each other can benefit from strong bonds, whether online or offline. When we affirm each other’s marriages and parenting, we help to build up communities where love flourishes and joy abounds.

Filed Under: Lifelong Learning, Parental Engagement

May 19, 2018

Be a Scout Not A Soldier

I’m never wrong, except when I’m disagreeing with my wife. Okay, fine, I admit that I’m often wrong and I’m not always the quickest to acknowledge when I’m wrong. Recently I watched Julia Galef’s TEDx talk on why we think we’re right — even when we’re wrong. It turns out when I struggle to see or admit that I am wrong, I am often encountering what social scientists call “motivated reasoning.” Galef explains that motivated reasoning refers to how our  “unconscious motivations, our desires, and fears, shape the way we interpret information.” In other words, we are rarely fully disinterested and impartial in the face of new data. Galef explains that “some information, some ideas, feel like our allies. We want them to win. We want to defend them. And other information or ideas are the enemies, and we want to shoot them down.”

Often how we respond to new information can be traced back to our mindsets and how open we are too different perspectives. Galef describes these mindsets using two metaphors:

So I’d like you to imagine for a moment that you’re a soldier in the heat of battle. Maybe you’re a Roman foot soldier or a medieval archer or maybe you’re a Zulu warrior. Regardless of your time and place, there are some things that are constant. Your adrenaline is elevated, and your actions are stemming from these deeply ingrained reflexes, reflexes rooted in a need to protect yourself and your side and to defeat the enemy.

So now, I’d like you to imagine playing a very different role, that of the scout. The scout’s job is not to attack or defend. The scout’s job is to understand. The scout is the one going out, mapping the terrain, identifying potential obstacles. And the scout may hope to learn that, say, there’s a bridge in a convenient location across a river. But above all, the scout wants to know what’s really there, as accurately as possible.

In order to cultivate the scout mentality, we need to change the way we feel. While that might not be the most intuitive advice, our gut reactions and even our ability to reason are conditioned with the more immediate emotional reactions we have. Galef explains that in order to learn to be like scouts, “we need to learn how to feel proud instead of ashamed when we notice we might have been wrong about something. We need to learn how to feel intrigued instead of defensive when we encounter some information that contradicts our beliefs.” To me, that sounds like we also need a healthy dose of humility, and maybe even the humor to laugh at our mistakes, which will let us truly become lifelong learners.

Below is the whole TEDx talk:

Filed Under: Lifelong Learning Tagged With: lifelong learning, TED

April 14, 2017

Summer Reading At Your Library

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“I like libraries. It makes me feel comfortable and secure to have walls of words, beautiful and wise, all around me. I always feel better when I can see that there is something to hold back the shadows.” -Roger Zelazny

Summer is almost here and that means it’s soon time to sign your child or teen up for a Summer Reading Program at your local library. Every year, businesses (including local Lancaster County businesses) donate coupons and prizes to incentive students into completing a reading challenge. The summer months off school often result in a staggering loss of learning. Keeping your kids reading helps them retain what they’ve learned during the school year and also gives them opportunities to do their own independent learning, whether reading about maps or horses or computer programming!

Of course, libraries aren’t just for kids. Even with your busy summer schedule, consider setting goals for yourself. During those beach days or on the blistering hot August days when you’re camped inside with the AC on, try to squeeze in some time to read a novel or biography or memoir. Some libraries also offer adult reading programs so maybe the chance of winning an Amazon giftcard will help encourage you to do some reading this summer.  My goodreads goal is to read 30 books this year.

Make sure you also ask about summer events at your library; there are often great educational programs and fun events for all age groups (including adults) hosted all throughout the summer. Consider going to programs and events as a family.

There are 18 libraries in Lancaster County. To find out which one is closest to your family, click here.

Here is a recent video (10 minutes) from The Atlantic showing why libraries still matter by highlighting modern libraries in New York:

Filed Under: Lancaster County, Lifelong Learning Tagged With: lancaster, libraries

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